When it comes to divorce, you and your ex-spouse will face many changes. It can be challenging, even more so when children are involved. However, effective co-parenting allows your children to have that sense of stability and the privilege of being close with their parents. It can be difficult and take a lot of work, but it's worth it for the kids.
Writing out a parenting plan is the first step to ensuring that this new way of parenting will go as smoothly as possible. Seeing married parents fight can be hard on children, but it's even harder on children with divorced parents. A parenting plan is there to avoid this.
You may not be able to prepare for every possible conflict, but you can prepare for most disagreements. When you follow a parenting plan, these disagreements will likely not escalate. Psychology Today shares some tips and the following steps to take for a successful co-parenting relationship.
Respect your roles as parents
Although you are separated, your importance in your children’s lives doesn’t go away. You are still raising them in every aspect. You have to share your beliefs, values, and morals with your children, and your ex has to do the same. You must teach them proper communication, problem-solving, and how to build honest and safe relationships. You and your ex may disagree regarding your parenting style, but it is crucial that when your children see you together, you are modeling what you are teaching. Children are very analytical and aware, so be cordial toward one another.
Set consistency as a goal
You and your ex may not see eye-to-eye, but you should aim to keep household rules as similar as possible. Things like bedtime, chores, screen time, etc., are okay to be flexible with, but when it comes down to discipline and behavior, it’s important to stay consistent between each household.
Don’t let your kids be spies or allies
Even unwittingly, you can't allow your children to get involved in your relationship with your ex. Leave the details of the divorce out of a conversation with the kids. They don’t need to know the cause of your divorce or the financial outcome. This can cause children to sway toward one parent over the other, which can later cause anxiety and stress.
Use a shared online calendar and share special moments
Schedules with children are always jam-packed, and it can be hard to keep track of everything. Sharing a calendar with your co-parent can help you stay organized and communicate better.
To avoid tension, share moments with the children if a co-parent is not present. Many couples do this by sharing pictures and videos. If possible, at events like birthdays and parent-teacher conferences, put in the effort to make sure you are both present. Your children will appreciate it the most.
How an Indiana divorce attorney can help
The end of a marriage can be hard on the couple, especially if they have children. In addition, issues may arise that make it harder to co-parent.
Get help from Hocker Law, LLC. We have years of experience helping people through difficult divorce situations. Contact us to schedule a free consultation and learn how we can help you.