Like many things, people aren't afraid to share their opinions on divorce. Unfortunately, they may make these opinions based on what they hear, read, or watch without the experience of going through a divorce of their own.
If you're considering divorce, it's common to have many questions.
It may be hard to separate what's true and false, so it's a good idea to talk to an experienced divorce attorney about your situation.
Knowledge is power when it comes to divorce, and distinguishing myths from reality is a step in the right direction. Here are the Top 5 most common myths about divorce.
Myth 1: 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce.
Saying there's a 50/50 chance your marriage will end in divorce is false. It was true in the 70s, but we live in a different world now. For the past 20 years, there has been a drop in the number of divorces. For example, 70 percent of marriages in the 90s went on to reach their 15th anniversary.
Myth 2: Divorce means you failed.
No matter the length of the marriage or other factors, divorce does not equal failure. People outside the marriage tend to blame one of the partners, even when there is no one to blame. Life gets better and healthier for some people after a divorce, which is a success, not a failure.
Myth 3: Moments of unhappiness in a marriage mean you will get divorced.
All relationships go through ups and downs, and it's important to remember that they're not always easy. A life-long commitment like marriage is even more difficult. You have to remember that every marriage has its bad moments. It's not going to be happiness 24/7. But because a rough patch forces you to go to therapy does not mean you are going to get divorced.
Myth 4: Divorce harms children
Divorce is stressful for everyone involved, including children, but it is not harmful to them. What is detrimental to kids is constant fighting and conflicts, which may continue in an unhealthy marriage. Children are innocent and do not understand how to handle it when their parents argue. All they can do is sit there and consume it. Kids need stable, civil parents that will both be there for them. Healthy parenting is possible whether you're divorced, married, living together, or apart.
Myth 5: Living together before marriage lowers the chance of divorce
Whether you and your partner live together before or after you're married does not affect the chances of your marriage ending in divorce. They are not correlated at all. This is a common myth because of the ages most couples are at when they move in together. If you decide to live together before marriage, be sure to consult one of our attorneys about a cohabitation agreement.
Divorce attorneys serving Indiana
Ending a marriage can be challenging, but you don't need to go through the process alone. The legal team at Hocker Law, LLC can help you explore all your options. With our law firm by your side, you can go through the process with confidence. Contact us today for a free and confidential consultation with no obligations. Our law firm is in Indianapolis and proudly serves clients throughout Indiana.